Dogs and dog owners. I was grouchy around them for most of my life. It only took four bad experiences between the ages of nine and 12 to fill me with enough anxiety, fear, and anger – and a dash of resentment – to last the next 40 years (see “This Lucky Dog”). Six years […]Read More Choose Joy. Leave the rest behind.
I heard my mom screaming my name. It was three in the morning. I found her in the bathroom talking to my dad “Don…Don…wake up!” He was sitting on the commode, leaning back on the tank, eyes open, not breathing. My dad was an anxious guy. Like me, he internalized most of his worries and […]Read More The times I saw him die
I enjoy cleaning our home. Resetting, reducing clutter, a clean floor. When I recently lost my job and a month later my dad, I began intentionally doing a lot of cleaning for therapy. I’ve also been helping others keep their own homes clean. It’s been a healthy way to ease through change by helping others […]Read More Balance: clean & organized
After I made the basketball team in seventh grade, I found out my teammates and I had to “dress” for all road games. You know, a better representation when you’re visiting a town. That meant we had to wear a tie or a “nice” sweater and slacks, no jeans. Over 44 years later, some middle […]Read More Better service when you serve the server.
Recently I was driving to have a heart-to-heart chat with my brother. I started singing a song I had heard 37 years ago. The song, “Talk To One Another.” was written and recorded by Brown Bannister. I’m pretty sure he only produced one album. While I couldn’t remember all of the words, I knew most […]Read More Talk to one another
The story goes: Hall of Fame pitcher Warren Spahn was on the mound in a tie game when legendary power hitter Jimmie Foxx was coming to bat. Spahn’s coach called timeout came to the mound and told Spahn “don’t throw it high and outside, he’ll hit it out of the park.” Spahn threw the next […]Read More Say This (instead of that)
Mind’s Eye: the mental faculty of conceiving imaginary or recollected scenes ~Merriam-Webster By the time I was in a summer traveling baseball league in middle school, I had been visualizing my success for a couple of years. With a cassette tape recorder and earphone to boost my imagination, I would lay on my bed or sit […]Read More In My Mind’s Eye